Mastery of the mind-body connection for better sex, better orgasms, and a better you.
by Nikol Dekazou
Let go of the images of sex you've seen in movies. Let go of the idea that sex has an end goal of orgasm. Let go of the idea that sex has an easy to follow recipe.
“The truth is you're ok and sexy just as you are. Once you see that, and truly believe it, you will notice a positive change in your sexual experiences. Taking the time to look inside and really feel your body, either in solo play or in partnered sex, will rock your world and invigorate your pleasure potential.”
Mindfulness and positive affirmations are great first steps towards anxiety free sexual experiences (in both solo and partnered sex).
Mindfulness is Sexy!
If you experience anxiety around sex, welcome to the club. You are not alone! Religious influence, media influence, and a general lack of, or butchering of, sex education has inundated the modern world with negative messages surrounding sex and sexuality.
It's easy to become caught up in details and insecurities during sexual encounters. You might be stuck in your head with thoughts like, "Am I turning my partner on? Am I a creep for wanting anal? Is my belly roll is disgusting. Oh gosh, it's so gross." The truth is you're ok and sexy just as you are. Once you see that, and truly believe it, you will notice a positive change in your sexual experiences. Taking the time to look inside and really feel your body, either in solo play or in partnered sex, will rock your world and invigorate your pleasure potential.
Acquiring mindful sexual confidence won't happen overnight. Start slow. Try breathing exercises - the breath is the bridge between the mind and the body. Begin a meditation practice, or amp up the one you already have. There are apps and podcasts for mindfulness and meditation everywhere. Search around for one you resonate with. Also, rewire your brain with internal repetition of positive affirmations. Here are some examples: "I am a sexual dynamo," "I am a sexual god or goddess," "I deserve this pleasure and it's ok to want what I want and like what I like," "I am graceful and know what I like." Whatever you need to hear to feel sexy, tell yourself that over and over until you believe it. (#selflove #pleasure #confidence #sensual #s3xpositive)
Mindfulness in the small things will spill over into your sexuality. Practice daily and go easy on yourself. You've got this! Practice being mindful and aware of your body, and then carry that confident sensation into your sexual experiences.
* Mindful masturbation and healthy communication are also very important for relieving sexual anxiety. I will cover these topics in future posts. So watch out for more!
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